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Apr. 1st, 2022 12:28 pmThere is that saying about "You Never Know What Someone Is Going Through, So Be Kind."
Been thinking about my last two weeks which started when the patient started talking to me about finding his "little sister dead on the floor (she was 42) after she had been dead for a week...oh, the flies were there..." and how he presented himself normally as a guy who was likeable and told a lot of jokes.
We really never know what is going on with others unless they tell us. A lot of people feel shame in sharing their struggles, so you only know if they act different. For those of us we don't know at all, all we can base our interactions on is how they respond to us, and run with it.
Life is hard. Life is challenging. We get told over and over again through social media that life is good for SOME folks, and it impacts us all. The ripples spread throughout everything.
I am going to try to be nicer. To keep in mind the above saying. I want to be a positive force in the world. I won't allow abuse of me, but I think I should try to keep an open mind when approaching people. In my line of work, it's hard because god damn, these people do not want to be here most of the time. So, their life is already starting behind mine (because I am paid to be there.)
I need to learn to set boundaries, or at least be able to shield myself from their emotional sharing. It IS a part of the job, whether I like it or not. I did email my therapist about it, and he and I are gonna chat this week about it.
Short article on never knowing the full story, and being kind:
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/never-know-someone-going-kind/
Been thinking about my last two weeks which started when the patient started talking to me about finding his "little sister dead on the floor (she was 42) after she had been dead for a week...oh, the flies were there..." and how he presented himself normally as a guy who was likeable and told a lot of jokes.
We really never know what is going on with others unless they tell us. A lot of people feel shame in sharing their struggles, so you only know if they act different. For those of us we don't know at all, all we can base our interactions on is how they respond to us, and run with it.
Life is hard. Life is challenging. We get told over and over again through social media that life is good for SOME folks, and it impacts us all. The ripples spread throughout everything.
I am going to try to be nicer. To keep in mind the above saying. I want to be a positive force in the world. I won't allow abuse of me, but I think I should try to keep an open mind when approaching people. In my line of work, it's hard because god damn, these people do not want to be here most of the time. So, their life is already starting behind mine (because I am paid to be there.)
I need to learn to set boundaries, or at least be able to shield myself from their emotional sharing. It IS a part of the job, whether I like it or not. I did email my therapist about it, and he and I are gonna chat this week about it.
Short article on never knowing the full story, and being kind:
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/never-know-someone-going-kind/
